Chasing after the world~


Perhaps the biggest dis-ease in the world today is living life on the Hamster Wheel.

The constant grind and struggle and pursuit of something:  Money.   Job.  Career.  Relationships.  Success.  Balance.  Health.  Beauty.  Approval.  Enlightenment.  Peace.  Whatever.

It becomes a type of internal prison and often people aren’t even aware of how insidious and pervasive it affects their whole life.

That which you chase you will never have.

All the chase leads to is more of the chase.

(And if that is what you want.  Go for it.)

I’ve talked about it before:  don’t try.

Just choose.  Choose you.

They don’t teach this in schools.  There is no Harvard MBA for this.  In fact, society teaches quite the opposite, don’t they?

I like this Zen gatha:

‘Chasing after the world

brings only chaos.

Allowing it all to come to me

Brings peace.’

Of course we are here to explore and create and desire is not a bad thing.   But a distinction needs to be made:

It’s the choice not to give your power away to the world but to be you.


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When will the real conversation begin?

Nasim Aghdam

Her name was Nasim Aghdam.

And earlier this week she walked into Youtube headquarters and shot three people then herself.  And who was she and what is really happening here?

The Guardian describes her: “On social media she was more than an Iranian immigrant who lived with her grandmother in southern California but an athlete, a fitness guru, a model, a poet, a vegan advocate, an animal rights warrior and a film-maker. She was glamorous and fought inequity. She was a star.”

Without getting into details she became angry at Youtube for making a corporate policy change that took away her modest income (and that of many others).  She let this anger burn away at her, let it create mental health imbalance until the day came she chose to use violence to express herself.

And there is no shortage of violence in the world today but why are people – often in the younger demographics – choosing guns and killing as a course of action?

Because they are choosing to take their power back.

But killing people or violence doesn’t empower anyone.  Does it?

Those people who were shot have families and co-workers impacted by this.  And I get that corporations and organizations are greedy and often soul-crushing entities  (I have direct experience working in such a place where it is a challenge every day to create a healthy life.)  But it is people who make up these places.  And there is  human side to everything.

The recent Parkland school shooting in Florida has created a movement where people are no longer willing to accept the status-quo and they are pushing for change.  But incidents like this and the Youtube shooting will continue to happen until we as a society start going a little deeper and talking about things and creating shifts in how we do things.

Nasim Aghdam chose to kill.  But she was an intelligent, beautiful, talented, artistic and wonderfully weird and interesting woman who could have chosen to use her negative experience with Youtube as a catalyst to become a political activist or agent for social change empowering herself in the process and helping the world become a better place.

But let’s not be too quick to separate ourselves from her or anyone else who go to extreme places.  They started out in the same place as you and I and just let things get out of hand.  Their is a killer inside each and every human being.  As inside of us is the potential for anything and everything.

And killing is a cry for help but who is listening?  Pointing the finger at guns or ideologies or particular individuals (and demonizing them as this or that) is only going to perpetuate or increase the problem.  A radical solution is needed.  And you probably won’t want to hear it.  As the media won’t talk about it in any meaningful way.

On this 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King’s assassination (also making the news this week) it’s important to note that he was champion of love.   He chose love in the face of hate, extremism, conflict and division.  He was able to see the bigger picture because he opened himself to it.  He was able to see a glimpse of the endgame.  And society isn’t ready for love is it?  As those who speak of it tend to get killed themselves when enough people start listening.

However, it’s important to look at the full story and understand our humanity as it is only then we can begin see where change is needed and where we need to heal and how we can empower ourselves.

Who was  Nasim Aghdam?  Who are you?

Find out who you are, beyond the roles you play.

And realize…. you can choose in any direction.  There is a choice to contract your existence or a choice to empower yourself and share yourself with the world in any little or large way that you do.  In the amazing way that you can.



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in appreciation of Bukowski~


It is interesting that since the death of Charles Bukowski in 1994 there has been a growing appreciation of his work and what he offered.

He was a writer who lived from and wrote about the gutter but who had the heart of a saint really and touched upon something that unites us all, for those willing to look past the surface.  I may be off but I think his heavy drinking was both a celebration of life and a way to deal with the pain of what life can be – the pain we inflict on ourselves and each other.

His writing and life was an exploration of things – the good, bad and ugly.  He bothered to go deeper than others and to simply care even though I don’t think that’s how he might have put it.

He bothered to pause as a course and way of life and actually ‘see’

and how few of us are willing to do that?


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Anything is possible~

bob welch french kiss

“You are here and warm
But I could look away and you’d be gone
Cause we live in a time
When meaning falls in splinters from our lives
And that’s why I’ve traveled far
‘Cause I come so together where you are”

–“Sentimental Lady” by Bob Welch (1945-2012)

Even as a boy I had a certain feeling about time.  A distinct sense that life is but a moment in time.  And over the decades this particular perception hasn’t changed at all.

You could even say all of time is a but a moment.

This moment called now.

How could that possibly be?

Past and future are but judgments made from the now.  A perception.  A choice.  It also speaks to the oneness of existence.

And you wish to time travel and be in the year 1890?  Or 2068?  That’s as easy as being in this year, is it not?  So what keeps us firmly rooted to this particular time?

Simply this:  the mind.

So you could say that anything is possible if you but suspend the mind… for a moment.


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the importance of dreaming and desire~

kitty in grass

“I had some dreams, they were clouds in my coffee, clouds in my coffee, and (chorus)”

Carly Simon, “You’re So Vain”

Life is but a dream.

There is more truth in the children’s song “Row, row row your boat” than one might imagine.

And you may achieve your dreams or not; you may create new dreams or abandon your dreams altogether; you may make your life the dream, or not.

There is always the possibility to reinvent yourself anew or go in a new direction.

The thing is this:  Your life is the dream.  And if you are not allowing the movement of your desire and energy into your life than you are cutting yourself off from something essential.

And at that point you may as well kiss your life good-bye as it is all but over.

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What is the bubble of your life?


What are the limits you exist by?

What are the patterns of your thoughts?

What are your fears, doubts, and perceptions?

What is the bubble you exist in?

We create our lives through our choices moment by moment.

And every moment is an opportunity

to explore, play, see and go deeper

and opportunity to move beyond perspectives of separation.

Are you willing to see the brilliance of the person in front of you, regardless of who they are?  Regardless of their choices?

Can you see they make their choices and are the same brilliance that you are?

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The relaxation response~


Relaxation is a choice.

Cultivated as a practice it can be a response

 to the stimulus of a world that can easily pull us

from our place of being.

Relaxation can be an opening into awareness.

An opening into simplicity.

An opening into more.

If you choose it and go in that direction.


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