Living a “soul” directed life~

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(Splinter, Jen and Mark in west-Negril, Nov 2017)

When I was a boy and teenager I never understood the term ‘soul’.  It made no sense.  I came across it in either a religious or scholarly context that seemed abstract and removed from my life.

And it wasn’t until many years later that the term “essence” or “soul-essence” finally clicked in and I realized what it was – that it was me, my true essence and energy that these terms refer to.  The deeper part of yourself beyond the ego-personality role.

And that was a turning point for me.  Because it meant that it was all eminently and infinitely practical.  It was more real than the reality in which we give our power away to.

It meant that understanding of the universe and life was possible and that I could start to grow in understanding and awareness.  It meant that I could start to live from that place.

And I am still exploring and choosing this in my life.  It is a simple choice that drives my life and choices and I do not always come from that place but it has become easier over the years.

Connecting with that energy opens up so much because it is the energy of existence.  That place which we are all one.  And the choice is a consistency and broadening beyond anything else.

Love is what we are.


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Moving beyond limiting paradigms~


Are you ready for some high-level shiitake?  It’s actually not “higher” but just a radically different way of seeing things.

One conversation that I avoid having with people is about the concept that there are no victims in the world.  Basically what I tell the few that I broach the subject with is that there is only perception, choice and experience.  Love.  Very few are ready or interested in hearing about that because it means taking total ownership of yourself.

People seem to be offended when you challenge such a basic thing as their mindset that we can be a victim to someone or anything else as it is such an ingrained way of thinking that is taught to us from infancy.  It is an assumption to think that is the just how things are, almost a badge of honor.  People will site some example where a person or a group of people died through disease or acts of violence in which was ‘beyond their control’.

But what they do not realize is that there is no control of anything in existence.  Control is just an illusion of your mind.  Trying to control anything is like trying to force a shape with water or a tell a cat to do something.  It is not possible.   Sure things happen in life that make us sad, hurt and feel pain.  I am not diminishing that.  I encourage people to acknowledge their feelings and acknowledge where they are at.

When I say that ‘there are no victims in the world’ that does not mean than we should disregard the environment in which we are in or do whatever we want.  This is a world of cause and effect.  If you choose to jump off a building you will suffer the effect of that.  If you choose to give a Hell’s Angel biker the finger you might find yourself with a problem.   Some choices are more sustainable and healthy and life-affirming than others.  We need to respect our world and each other and acknowledge our beliefs and belief systems (we are not separate from them).

It is important to realize that you chose, on a conscious level or not:

To be in the environment you are in.

To see the world and yourself the way you do.

To express yourself as you are.

These choices actively create the reality you experience.  And absolutely no one or thing can harm you unless you choose to allow it.   Through your choices.

Do you think the essence energy you are –  the deeper self – chose to be here only to be thrown around by the tides and vicissitudes of random chaos?  That is not how the universe works.  Sure we experience the myriad of limits that is the human experience, but only until we open ourselves to more.

The human perspective is (currently) one of singular consciousness.  We define ourselves as separate form everything around us.  It becomes a way and form of disempowerment and it is impossible to live from a place of love when we live in a place of separation.   If we are separate from anything then of course it would make sense that we have to try to protect ourselves and devise strategies for survival, success, etc.

Having said that, it must be understood that to move beyond self-imposed limits it must be observed how ‘fear’ and ‘separation’ are parallel ideas.  They reinforce each other.  They are two sides of the same coin.

Compassion is impossible when we cannot see and choose from a perspective of what unites us.   From the larger perspective there is only the energy of choice.  Not even that.  Just choice.  Just love.  You can see and define yourself in any way you choose.  Or you can live in a bubble and cry foul.  That is your choice and you are free to choose whatever you wish.  But you are more than your conscious mind.  And ultimately your movement will be to open up to what is beyond ‘single consciousness’ perspectives.

It is possible to shift your perspective to see the brilliance of each human expression (regardless of what another’s choice may be) and it begins with you.   You will not be able to so the miracle of another if you do not see the miracle that is you.  Your own brilliance.  So that is a great practice for those who want to expand their lives.

We are all here to empower ourselves and to see through the illusion of things.   A state of real empowerment is not trying to maneuver successfully and achieve a better, more secure position in the world.  It is to move into your vulnerability and see that this world has no power over you.   Power comes from who and what you are.

What is it that you choose in your life?

Send me an email if you have any questions or wish to explore it further, in conversation.


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The wisdom of Bill Murray~

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As I once said to one of my brother, ‘This is your life, not a rehearsal.’  Somewhere there’s a score being kept, so you have an obligation to live life as well as you can, be as engaged as you can.  The human condition means that we can zone out and forget what the hell we’re doing.  So the secret is to have a sense of yourself, your real self, your unique self.  And not just once in a while, or once a day, but all through the day, the week, and life.  You know what they say: ‘Ain’t no try, ain’t nothing to it but to do it.

-Bill Murray

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Impressions of Jamaica~

We loved our trip to Negril!  Beyond the hustle for tourist dollars on the 7-mile beach, rampant dog abuse and crazy roads there is much to fall in love with in Jamaica:  Turquoise waters and coastal views and living, a realness and sociability, hidden gems and tropical greenery, a relaxed and simple approach to life.  Not to mention the sun and heat 🙂

We will definitely be going back to see our friends and family (thank you for making our visit so amazing).  As the Rastas say, “One Love!”  You get a sense everyone is in it together down there.   In appreciation and love.

Splinter and Mark

(with my friend Splinter, who I miss already.)

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The paradox of problems~

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A problem often cannot be solved at the level or consciousness of the problem itself.  The mind will keep spinning and the walls will remain.

But open yourself to more and realize that you can create a new structure or paradigm for your life.   One that will present new limits and issues.

And the exploration will continue from there.

But ask yourself…

Are you here to solve problems?

Or, are you here for more?

An example from my own life would be this:

Recently I have been feeling like I am stagnant with my job.  I have looked for jobs of interest and nothing has happened yet.  So instead of ‘trying harder’ and getting frustrated, I am going on vacation to Jamaica!

Shift your perspective and energy and allow the rest to fall into place.  That is my approach to things, basically.

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From an absolute perspective, are there any consequences to choice if in each moment we are free to choose in any direction?

We perceive reality as a continuity of one moment into another, from one point in space-time to another.  But that is a very limited perspective of what reality and existence truly is.   A very linear one.

Open yourself to the awareness that you are choice.  Choose and choose again, creating, exploring and experiencing yourself, never-ending.

And from that “point” wouldn’t your life be a reflection of your limitlessness, despite and because of each choice you make?

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Shift your perspectives~


His tail was back.  He was sure of it.  He felt a stab of elation, the octagons and adrenaline mingling with something else.  You’re enjoying this, he thought; you’re crazy.

Because, in some weird and very approximate way, it was like a run in the matrix.  Get just wasted enough, find yourself in some desperate but strangely arbitrary kind of trouble, and it was possible to see Ninsei as a field of data, the way the matrix had once reminded him of proteins linking to distinguish cell specialties.  Then you could throw yourself into a highspeed drift and skid, totally engaged but set apart from it all, and all around you the dance of biz, information interacting, data made flesh in the mazes of the black market…’

-Neuromancer, author William Gibson

Enjoying this book right now by the brilliant Canadian writer.  Not going to review it but just sharing that, for those who are not familiar, it is one of the most groundbreaking and influential works of fiction of the last century.

For some reason Hollywood never adapted it but as of August 2017 a project is picking up steam and looks like a movie is in the works finally.   The book definitely has an edge and energy to it and the movie might be some type of hybrid Trainspotting-Blade-Runner-Matrix (without the martial-arts ballet every scene).

Isn’t it wonderful exploring new worlds?  Be open to new ways of seeing the world and observe your movement in it.   (And of course you don’t need drugs for that.)


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